We’re cheerier today. Yes, that’s a word.
Thank you for the thoughtful comments yesterday. For a bunch of people haters, you’re OK!
I had a great conversation with a friend yesterday. We were discussing kids, as moms are wont to do. She is also the mother of two girls, but hers have both graduated from high school and she’s testing empty nesthood. We live in a community where the public schools are excellent, the parents are highly educated, and, in the immortal words of Garrison Keillor, “all the children are above average.” Yep. Well, my friend is a little more honest than most, and she has had a wild ride with her younger child, who I am happy to say has turned out beautifully nonetheless. She made two statements that I’d like to post on large signs around our village, or at least on the school grounds. I’ll paraphrase:
1. Whatever your kids’ successes or challenges are, they are not about you.
2. We have to mother the child we’re given.
Well, stand up and applaud!
As parents, I think our obligation is to help our kids figure out who they are, and how they can live comfortably in their own skins through their adult lives. Certainly this includes imparting some basic tools for living on this earth – education, values, social responsibility, work ethic. Beyond that, we’d best take our sticky hands off the controls, because we might not be here forever.
You may have seen the some of the recent press on parents who get a little too involved in their kids’ college work, or (I am not making this up) attend job interviews with their college graduate children, and engage in negotiation with employers about the terms of their adult children’s employment.
To these parents, I can only say “get your own life.” How are these kids ever going to stand on their own and live?
Well. My blogging about this won’t stop the tide. I’ll just stick to my plan, and we’ll see how everyone looks when they turn 30. Hopefully my kids will be the ones who are not going into hock to pay their therapy bills.
In knitting news, here’s an update on the Heroes scarf:
I’m not able to get a decent shot of what the stitch pattern actually looks like, but it’s “so cool,” in the words of the Ds. I’ve also got the Boku bag started – Marianne is right on about the yarn. Lovely to work with. And the sock? Chillin’. I’m going to try one in a larger gauge to figure out the heel and gusset, then I’ll get back to the toothpicks.